Yesterday was Father’s Day. Stevie spoke a great message at service and the kids (really, Stevie) got me some cool gifts. I now have a trophy to let everyone know that I rule as “Daddy-o of the patio” and a very nice leather and silver name plate for the desk. We had a nice dinner at a mexican restaurant…I was kind to the family by skipping the refried beans and then a nice afternoon nap. Really what I like to do on Father’s Day is to take some time for reflection and self-review. What can I fix in myself to make me a better dad? The topic of choice, attention.
I have four kids…my oldest, Z, just lost his first tooth, Rubikube is potty training and Dawg just started crawling. So many things to pay attention to and celebrate. Wait…what? I missed a kid? Correct, I missed Lil. And this is what I’ve been thinking about not just yesterday, but the last few days. I can get so caught up in what the other kids are doing that I could miss spreading the attention to one of them, and that could be disastrous. Maybe not disastrous, but could affect her. So what do I do? Make a conscious effort to spend time with Lil. She may not be doing something that I’ll be giving her a “high-five” for like losing a tooth, peeing on the potty or crawling across the room, but I can set her in my lap, have her read me a book and give her a big hug at the end of the reading and it will make her day.
There may be quite a bit of attention I have to spread to four different kids, but if I want to be the best dad I can be, I’m going to do it! Oh, and it’s really not that hard…I love being with my kids.