Stevie and I have been married for over 11 years now…and it really has been great. Those 11 years didn’t just happen as many of you “marriage veterans” know. There are a lot of little things that went into the building of this marriage: love, prayer, comfort, encouragement, deep discussions, sex, arguing, crazy situations that just make you laugh…that’s the one I want to talk about today.
The musician Seal came out with a song some time ago called “Crazy”. I read the lyrics and being that I’m not very poetic, they didn’t make much sense to me outside of the line, “We’re never going to survive unless we are a little crazy”. I think there’s some truth to that line when it comes to marriage. I think marriages need some “craziness” to survive. And by “crazy”, I mean things spouses do to stretch each other and “spice up” the marriage.
The level of craziness within a marriage isn’t all that important, as long as long as there is some craziness at least a couple of times a month…but for giggles, let’s say you measure craziness on a scale from 1 to 10. One would be encouraging your spouse to try something else at Taco Bell besides the Burrito Supreme, minus onions, tomatoes and red sauce, add sour cream; soft taco supreme minus tomatoes and a Mountain Dew and a 10 would be skydiving, cliff jumping, climbing Mt. Everest or going on vacation in August with all the kids to Florida in a station wagon with leather seats and no a/c.
This last weekend, Stevie and I performed what I would say is about a three on the crazy scale. We bought paint for our entry way, living room and dining room on Friday at about 10pm. Drove the 40 minute drive home and started painting…yes, at 11pm-ish and refused to sleep until it was done at 9am on Saturday…which meant we didn’t sleep until a brief nap on Saturday afternoon because the kids were up in the morning. Why did we do this? Two reasons…first, it really is the only time to paint the main living areas of your home when you have four children ranging in ages from 9 months to 7 years old. Second, “Because we’re never gonna survive unless we get a little crazy”! No, this is not a date night I would have actually planned out, but it was a great time and Stevie and I laughed a lot…so what if it was because we were slap happy by 4:30am…we laughed! To top it off, we have one more thing in the coming years to look back and say, “Remember that time…what were we thinking?”
What crazy things have you done recently or are planning to do in your marriage (seriously, leave a comment below…I would love to you know)?
I leave you with the immortal words of Jack Buck, “Go crazy folks, go crazy!”